I received this response from a fellow Healthy Habiteer to the question; “What Helps Me Stay Healthy?” Not only is their response beautifully written but it is absolutely relatable and they’ve allowed me to share it! I hope you enjoy reading it in its rawest form, as I did. To the author of this response, thank you for your candidness:
What Helps Me Stay Healthy?
Firstly, there are many ways people stay healthy. It depends on the person and what healthy means to them. To answer this question, I can breakdown a handful of topics and go deep into specifics on what works for me. However, I understand everyone is different and what works for me may not work for some people. I will share just a general response that I hope helps answer your question. I do keep to myself, so I am hesitant to share, but in the event it helps anyone in any way, I am happy to help!
As we all know, everyone has their own challenges. We may have different situations throughout different moments in our lives, but we all go through the same roller coaster of emotions. We all connect in that way. I think being able to balance your emotions and understanding what works for your mind, body, and spirit is the foundation of being centered and healthy.
Even though our society is more “connected” than ever, I believe we are more disconnected than ever.
How some of us may want to portray ourselves on and off social media and how we may compare each other to everyone else, in my opinion, is unhealthy and has caused some disconnect in our society and within ourselves. Many of us perceive each other through this media world in comparative ways, which can become negative, and I believe it is making us more negatively competitive and judgmental with others and ourselves.
We really don’t “know” each other or understand each other’s intentions when looking through these media screens. With that said, however, I recognize there are many positive advantages to social media and our networking world. It is nice to share and learn from each other and it is great and exciting to be able to see what people share- but with everything, there is balance.
In order to be healthy and stay connected with ourselves, I think we have to also learn to be more present with what’s in front of us.
We are all unique, yet we are all the same. The majority of us want similar desires, depending on where we are in our lives. We want to be healthy, we may want love/ a companion, successful careers, a family, a nice house, money, improved body image or look, closer friendships, travel, adventure, and the list goes on. We all have our own blessings and we all have our own challenges. No one is perfect and no one’s life is perfect. I have many blessings, but I have (and had) my share of challenges like everyone else.
Everyone is doing the best they can with the knowledge and resources they have in that present moment.
Ultimately, I believe, everyone is seeking to find peace, balance, and happiness within themselves and with others.In today’s society, I think it is more difficult for people to connect with what’s right in front of them and with themselves.
How Do You Stay Centered?
For me, being healthy/ centered isn’t all about food, exercise, limiting toxins from our environment, mindfulness (meditation!), and etc. Although those are all important to stay healthy, I believe being healthy lies deeper than that. It’s more emotional.
I believe the foundation of being healthy starts with finding what works positively for you in all areas of your life in that moment.
I am grateful for many things in my life, but what I needed to work on was setting up boundaries/ speaking up for myself with others and lessening the expectations I put on myself. I am not perfect and do not want to portray myself like I am because I am not. However, I do think I am a compassionate person and I strive to find balance in everything I do and… it’s hard! I surround myself with the people I love and the people who genuinely care about me.
I am learning to also set up boundaries with people, so my energy doesn’t get so drained. I also don’t like to get caught up in negativity or drama, which I think everyone can benefit from. Negativity can drain us very quickly. It’s not healthy to be around a lot of negativity.
Throughout my life, I was a people pleaser. I am a sensitive person and I do not like confrontation, but I have learned, and I am learning, to set boundaries for myself and with others. I truly believe people come in and out of our lives for a reason. Whether it is to teach us a lesson or for you to teach them a lesson, so we can all grow. Instead of learning from others in my life, I just continued letting people treat me the same way without setting up boundaries, speaking up for myself, and letting go of negativity. I put others needs first before my own (I am still working on). That was and is my own responsibility. It’s everyone’s responsibility.
We can’t control other people and their actions or how they think of us, however, we can control how we respond to people.
It is okay to say “No” or “That doesn’t work for me” or “I am not available right now” or “It made me upset when you said this…” Communication is important. We can’t expect to respond the same way and/ or do things the same way and expect different results.
I am social and I love being around people, but I am a “home body” and guarded. People may see me more as an introvert, but I was never a person who needed many people in my life. I am happier being around the people who I love and who love and want the best for me. My husband and I are very close and close to our families, which is most important to us. I enjoy our family, close friends, and children, especially our nieces. I believe it is important to surround yourself with positive people and relationships, whether it’s family, a close friend(s), or how ever that is for you.
Like I’ve mentioned, I could go deeper and much further into many topics that I’d love to share about, but the point of this answer is in order to find peace in other areas of your life, whether it’s your relationships with people, food, your career and aspirations, etc., you have to find peace in yourself.
I find people rely heavily on external approval or external outlets to make them happy; though I believe seeking external approval, trying to control the environment around us, and/or relying on other external quick fixes for satisfaction, can be unhealthy. If you’re chasing to find your self worth and approval from others, which I think some people tend to do, you are never going to be happy, healthy, or balanced.
Remember, people will perceive you how they want to perceive you, no matter your intention or who you truly are.
Most of the time, it’s not about you, it’s about what is happening with that person at that exact moment. It is more important to be grateful for what you have and who you have in your life. Give your energy to the positive areas in your life and those people in your life that bring out the best in you and who you appreciate.
What we think and what we put our energy towards is what we attract.
So, it is important to stay clear on what we want, be kind and honest with yourself and others, learn from any mistakes, try to stay positive and move forward.
What Health Advice Would You Like To Share With Others?
Be comfortable with who you are. Surround yourself with only the people you love and who respect you. Work hard. Be compassionate to yourself and others with healthy boundaries. Simplify your life (minimalism is one of the many topics I’d love to go into depth). Let go of negative situations or relationships/ people. Eat healthy foods that functionally work for your specific body and eat those foods you enjoy as well (diets don’t work, so if you are, stop!). Exercise the way that makes you feel good, even if it’s walking or light jogging outside and listening to the music that makes you feel inspired or motivated (That is my go-to). My husband loves high intensity/ weight training. It’s all individual. There is no “right” way. Remember to enjoy the moment. Following what makes me feel good and working with what is best for me in the moment keeps me healthy. I’m always learning how to find balance as life moves forward. We all are!
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